Sam Weinman

The difference between losing gracefully and losing well

I have neither the time nor the disposable income to be smashing $200 rackets at will, and I am horrified by the thought of my sons following suit. (“I would kill Charlie if he did that,” Lisa said -- which is not true, because I would kill him first.) But there is an important distinction between losing gracefully and losing well, and while I think we can all agree I fell woefully short of the former, the latter is where I choose to spend most of my energy.

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The difference between losing gracefully and losing well
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From Golf Digest: Sergio Garcia, and the triumph of a growth mindset

For years, Sergio Garcia fit the description of a fixed mindset almost perfectly. Garcia was supremely talented, and when he won often as a young golfer, it portended well for his future. He was too good not to win. But when Garcia lost, as one inevitably does in professional golf, frustration mounted. Garcia blamed outside circumstances. He grew increasingly sullen. As famously captured in a rant after the 2012 Masters, he started to wonder if he really was as good as originally thought. “I'm not good enough ... I don't have the thing I need to have,” Garcia told Spanish reporters. “In 13 years I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to play for second or third place.”

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From Golf Digest: Sergio Garcia, and the triumph of a growth mindset
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Why the trophy debate matters, and where people get it wrong

What I’ve found about participation trophies is while people have strong opinions about them, those opinions are often misguided. For starters, there seems to be this belief that this is only a recent phenomenon. But I’m 42, and I, too, had a bedroom of trophies growing up, and most were for the noble distinction of showing up on the last day.

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Why the trophy debate matters, and where people get it wrong
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On failure, success, and the all-important process

The other day I spoke at a conference for investors and executives at United Nations Plaza, which I agree makes no sense. The only reason is they wanted a few speakers to venture outside of business talk and provide some thought-provoking worldly insights. Then when those people were done, they asked me to speak. I did 20 minutes or so aboutWin At Losing, the benefits of failure, and the power of a growth mindset. It went pretty well. Only one guy got up and walked out (he received a phone call). Here's my speech:

 

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On failure, success, and the all-important process
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A Q&A about WIN AT LOSING

My publisher asked me to do a brief Q&A about my book. I've reposted it here.

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A Q&A about WIN AT LOSING
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Archive: The Lost Season Of Tiger Woods

I've taken the liberty of re-printing some of my favorite stories I've written. This one ran in The Journal News in October, 2004, not long after the U.S. lost badly in the Ryder Cup.

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Archive: The Lost Season Of Tiger Woods
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How I got better at vacation (Hint: practice)

When I was finally able to embrace the idea of vacation, it was in recognizing that these respites are healthy, even vital. Otherwise you’re just a guy who was out of the office for a week, and was having a sh---y time while he was.

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How I got better at vacation (Hint: practice)
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Pond hockey, frozen underwear, and my worst (or maybe best) day of parenting

There's not really a correct answer when your wife asks if you were aware that your son had pissed himself in sub-freezing temperatures and that the inside of his underwear is now crusted with ice. To say no is to reveal yourself as alarmingly incompetent. To say yes is probably worse, because at that point your explanation is something about how you were having too much fun playing hockey and didn't really want to deal. They are both the type of answers that, in another context, might involve the intervention of a state agency.

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Pond hockey, frozen underwear, and my worst (or maybe best) day of parenting
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The Olympics, Hope Solo, and a lesson in how not to lose

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The Olympics, Hope Solo, and a lesson in how not to lose